Why is dating younger men wrong not dating my best friend
And the truth is that most of them are completely creeped out at the prospect of dating a guy who was alive when JFK was alive. Now in my mid 40’s though, the idea of dating someone in their 60’s does seem like a big difference in terms of where we each are in life. Harrison Ford being an exception for me as well though, I have to say. Says Winter, “More and more, I’m meeting young men partnered with women 15-20 years older, both of whom don’t want to have children.” In fact, the desire to remain child-free may account for many younger men seeking older female partners in the first place. So a woman’s ability to successfully date a younger man may ultimately come down to being an independent thinker who is brave enough to buck the system (kind of like Madonna).“Madonna lives her life boldly, openly and without regard for social convention.When it came to finding love in New York, Amber Soletti, a 42-year-old who lives in the West Village, had no luck dating older guys or men her own age.While they were “well-established and articulate,” she wasn’t physically attracted to them and found they had too many issues.Indeed, this is a woman who would have the courage to love a younger man,” says Winter.So Madonna may have famously flamed out with former husband Guy Ritchie, but that’s not to say that things won’t work out with Zaibat.
But I do know women, and lots of women in their 20’s. A few women may bridge this gap for lust or money or dimestore psychological reasons, but most of the 28-year-old women I know would prefer to date a great, stable 30-40 year-old – who also knows what Snapchat is. But don’t forget, you and your younger girlfriends are the EXCEPTION. When I was in my late 30’s I became involved with someone 15 yrs. The age difference did not seem especially significant during the 5 yrs we were together.
So, six years ago, she started dating studs in their 20s and 30s — and she hasn’t looked back.
“Younger guys tend to be more active, have less baggage,” says Soletti, an event planner who regularly hosts dating mixers.
Insecurity and infidelity are juicier issues, for sure, but the most common reason older women’s relationships with younger men end is more prosaic. “That’s usually what it comes down to.” The most common disagreements arise when the younger man wants a child, and the older woman is done having children, can no longer do so or is simply committed to her child-free lifestyle.
Yet women shouldn’t assume that all younger men will eventually want children. Despite the prevalence of the cougar trend, older women shouldn’t expect society to treat their relationships with younger men as “normal.” They will likely field their share of raised eyebrows from friends and family members.
If you’re over the age of 40 and have ever said, “But I’m told I look five years younger than my age”, then you’re not immune to it yourself. And nobody has more choices than a 28-year-old woman. So if a woman finds it more appealing to just step into that world – to jump from the prolonged adolescence of the late 20’s into full-fledged settled-down womanhood – that could make sense.