Dating with nice girl
When I tell you to dial down chemistry, it becomes: “Oh, so I should go out with someone who is entirely unattractive to me?
”When I tell you that if you have your own money, you don’t need a man to make more than you, it becomes, “Oh, so I should find myself some slacker deadbeat who can’t support himself? Why is it that when I am being a bitch, aka ignoring men that I have no interest in going out with again, men won’t leave me alone?
NONE of this prevents you from following the Mc Millan “Why You’re Not Married” model (which I wrote about in my 2006 book, “Why You’re Still Single”).
She and I (and pretty much every good, sane man on the planet) agree that the best way to a man’s heart is to treat him well.
They reduce female behavior to a binary choice, when, in fact, behavior can never be compared to an either/or proposition.
If you have boundaries, you won’t stay with him for four months without being his girlfriend. And if you want a shorter way to get the formula right, let’s consider what it takes for a man to do well with women. You don’t want a raging, difficult, selfish asshole.